Some days you may feel like you need to have it together all the time. Whether it's while you're at work, school, or with your family. You pretend everything is okay all the time because you don't want them to worry about you or possibly perceive you as weak. You might have friends and family tell you, "it's going to be okay, you will be okay" or "get over it, everyone has problems." You might also hear people telling you, "you don't have a strong eman (faith) or you're not praying enough." Reality is, none of that matters right now. You can not get over it at this moment and you don't care that everyone has problems.
It's okay to not be okay
It's okay to not have it together every minute of everyday. You don't have to pretend that things are okay at all times. Mental illness is real and it's not something you can force or make to go away. Be true to yourself and your feelings. Find a safe place to let these feelings out. Maybe your best friend, mother, father, sibling, or another trusted person can be that safe person. If those outlets are not available, reach out for help. Speak to your doctor and ask them to help you find a therapist. Feel free to reach out to us here on Sunnah Counseling as well.
You Are Not Alone
You're not alone in your feelings and you don't have to be strong all the time. It's okay to feel like everything is just crashing down right this minute. It's okay to not have your feelings straight. It's okay to have a big jumble of feelings that make zero sense. You're not alone in your feelings.
Try to Push Through
Once you've given yourself time to not be okay, try to push through and keep going with life. Here are some things you can do to get on with your day, as well as some things to remember:
- Keep up with some basic chores, nothing too overwhelming, just some basics. This will help you stay away from negative thoughts and make you feel good overall.
- Do something you typically enjoy: Cook a small meal, go jogging, or window shop at the mall. It's okay if you don't enjoy it right now, but pushing through and doing it will slowly bring back some of the joy.
- It might not seem like it right now, but remember that things will get better.
- Reach out to a friend and go out for coffee or ice cream. It may seem difficult to remain social while you're in this state, but making some effort will help you gradually improve.
- Read or listen to some Quran and make some dua. Doing so will bring you comfort and help you feel at ease.
- Don't blame yourself for the way you feel; it's not your fault.
- Be proud of yourself and give yourself a pat on the back for having the courage to recognize that you're not okay right now. It takes someone special with a strong personality to make this recognition.
- Treat yourself with anything that will bring a smile to your face. It doesn't have to be something big, anything, even a favorite candy bar.
When you're feeling down, what do you do to get out of it? Let us know in the comments section below.